Think of a time when you shouldve advoacated for something and you didnt. What stopped you from speaking out? Why do we choose not to speak out on the things we believe in? Who do our decisons impress or dissappoint?
It boils down to approval. Because we all want acceptance. For who we are and what we represent. And many of us find ourselves oppressing parts of who we are as the price of an illusion of acceptance. Leading a life at rivals with your true desires requires being in a denial induced coma. We can’t see the denial because we’ve basically proved to ourselves that what our loved ones and society wants from us is the very same thing we want for ourselves. And it’s never true. No one can feel your heartbeat like you can. Before we can fight for someone else right to live free, we have to first learn how to break free of the chains we ourselves may still walk in. I’m learning how to do that. It’s a daily struggle when you feel like what you have to say isn’t important but, who else will it be important to. I’ve realized that in order to be an effective advocate (and a functional adult) I have to learn how to first speak up for my own right to be.